Premarital MArriage counseling
Hands-on strategies to build the relationship of your dreams
Fulfilling relationships don’t happen by accident.
You are committed to your partner and want a lifetime of successful communication, passionate intimacy, and joyful adventures. You want the love that you feel now to not only last but grow into something you can both cherish, rely on, and be proud of. You’re clear on the destination you want to guide your relationship towards but are not sure how to get there and how to avoid pitfalls along the way.
You need a space to ask the important questions
You and your partner probably know each other very well and are comfortable with how you relate and make decisions. My passion in collaborating with you is to provide the kind of insight that only comes with being a neutral third party in your dynamic. The topics we work through together will clarify the behaviors you want to take into your future and which you want to leave at the door. They will also shed light on both of your individual needs in the relationship and effective strategies for meeting them.
While catered to each couple, my approach usually involves administering an assessment at the start of counseling. The assessment provides useful information about areas of your relationship where you both feel aligned and the ones where you struggle. Hands-on worksheets, interactive exercises, and practical skill building are also core tools in premarital therapy.
Premarital counseling helps you build an intentional roadmap to sustaining the love that brought you together.
Topics in premarital therapy that are usually covered include:
-Communication: identifying each person’s style and how they handle stress
-Conflict: exploring practical ways to build resolution skills
-Financial Management: defining mutual values around money
-Intimacy: discussing preferences and desires around sex
-Relationship Roles and Parenting Styles: clarifying expectations around gender dynamics in the marriage and the ethics of raising children
-Family Histories: creating maps of family histories and how they shaped individual personality traits and spiritual beliefs
-Goal Setting: compiling a list of dreams for the relationship
FAQs
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Absolutely! Premarital therapy is unique in that it takes a more structured approach than typical couples counseling and you can customize it to immediate goals. Many partners whose weddings are coming up opt for intensive sessions where the material is covered in an accelerated timeframe. Please reach out about intensive options and we can customize a package that works for you.
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While premarital therapy is often provided by churches, it is NOT inherently faith-based. I am capable of providing that lens if you and your partner request it, but that is not my innate approach. Some of the materials I use may incorporate religious principles, but they are evidence-based and applicable to any belief system.