Couples Trauma Therapy in Uptown Dallas

‍There is a wide spectrum of reasons for why couples come in for therapy. For some, it’s a useful way to check in about the health of the relationship and learn skills that will help them when those harder stages of life hit. For others, it's to address a serious issue that feels too big to handle on their own. Neither is wrong and both can be beneficial. Research suggests that, no matter where you fall on that spectrum, all couples can benefit from a mediated space to work on the patterns in their relationship because the more insight you have into your core dynamic the more empowered you are to build healthy ways of relating. Our couples therapy services in Dallas help you take stock of the health of your current dynamic and explore options for growth no matter what stage your connection is in or what issue you are facing.

Couples therapy (including couples sex therapy) is typically a long-term process and there are no quick fixes because growth happens as you implement the tools, skills, and awareness that you learn in session in everyday life. The majority of my clients notice a significant shift in their dynamic within eight to twelve sessions and we work collaboratively at the front end to set practical, measurable goals. I take a direct and attachment based approach with my couples to give them feedback to implement and homework between appointments. My goal is to facilitate new, reparative experiences between you both in session (we do a lot of practicing together!), but you are ultimately the one in charge of your progress.

My job is to observe your relational dynamic and help you both understand it, process the root causes underneath the presenting issues, and thoughtfully examine your options for change. I am not a judge because we are not in a courtroom and litigation rarely helps couples heal. Both partners have their own equally valid experience of what it’s like to be in the relationship and I seek to understand both realities. I am straightforward in calling out the patterns that I see and that process is not always perfectly “equal” between partners, but the responsibility never rests on one person and the blame is always on the pattern, not the people.

Therapy is most effective when both parties want to be there and are motivated to do the work. That does not mean that a partner who is ambivalent towards or downright opposed to therapy at first cannot benefit from it, but at some point they have to be willing. If your partner has expressed that they are open to trying but have doubts, I am capable of meeting you both where you are at and give you the chance to experiment with what the process would be like in the first several sessions. If, however, your partner has made it clear through words and action that they are not ready to try at this time, it is not your job to change that. I encourage you to get therapy for yourself and benefit from a space that is dedicated to exploring options for your mental health.

Not at all! We can do the same type and quality of work virtually as we can in-person, it just depends on your preferences and which format you think allows you to open up better. Couples therapy in Dallas is available in-person in Uptown and via telehealth to any Texas resident and hybrid options are available if you want a mix of both.